Finding Love within yourself...

What's going on my lovely, beautiful people. I hope you have all been keeping safe and well during these crazy times! I cannot believe it have been over six months since I have posted blog on my page. I have been so invested into doing Podcasts when I can during these fast paced times that I have completed neglected blog posts which will not be the case anymore as I would like to do a mixture of both, even though of course talking into a mic is a lot easier than typing away! But anyway it is nice to be back!

Today, I wanted to talk about a subject that I have wanted to do a podcast and blog post on. Finding Love within yourself. This can be an extremely difficult subject and to be honest, I have really struggled with this myself for as long as I can remember now and still do to this day!

Right! To start things off, I want you to make a quick list for yourself or even just ask yourself now, about the things you love about you (You can do this on your phone, pen and paper, whatever is best for you!). When starting this list, do you instantly think of negative thoughts about yourself? Or does love flow through you top to bottom about yourself and make you smile? If your answer is positive, then that is absolutely amazing! Keeping doing what you are doing to keep that mindset! If you are sadly on the other side of this and put yourself down a lot with not showing yourself much love then I can completely relate like many, many people deal with on a daily basis.

Having this mindset can be an extremely frustrating and heart-aching, literally draining you of all your mental and physical energy, and it can really feel that this is just how our minds are going to work for the rest of our lives, but this really is not the case! I am going to share with you things that have recently clicked for me to help with this long process and I really do hope that this can help you on your journey too.

The Missing Piece To The Puzzle

Getting yourself back on track and really admitting that you do not love yourself is the first big step into making the right move in this process. It is like a putting the missing pieces together in a puzzle!

To be completely honest with you all. I only realised this in myself a few weeks back. I had a therapy session and had been feeling more down that usual and we spoke about the self love I have for myself outside of seeing my therapist. My initial reaction was, I guess I do at times, but then as the conversation continued I really started to realise that something was not right in myself. I went home that night and sat in my room for a good hour or so and it hit me all in on go. I don't love myself, not the way I should. I have relied on happiness, love and reassurance from others, friends, family, other relationships. Do not get me wrong all these things are beautiful and so important but this all has to come from within yourself first. I have felt there has been a missing piece of me for so long and it made me know that I need to fill the missing piece myself to help love myself.

This is in no way going to be a quick fix, as much as I wish it was for us all! But because I have had this moment of clarity recently I want to share this with you all and try and help you onto the right path too!

What can you do to get on track to loving yourself?

Getting on track is not an easy task, As I feel it really took a lot for me to realise that I needed to do this not for my close friends family or a future partner (Future partner is one that I think about a lot when it comes to this kind of love.) I want this to make people realise that you do not have to go through tough situations to realise. This is why I am doing this for you all! I want you to ask yourself, have you been doing this for you? Like I asked at the start! And if you are not, it's time! No time is better than the present! The most important thing when it comes to loving yourself, is just to start somewhere no matter where it is! Any step or plan, no matter how small it seems is just an amazing thing for you to get started.

Putting a daily plan in place is the best way to get started! It is what I have been doing for the past 50 days plus and it has really been helping me a lot more than I thought it would. It is proven to take between 21-28 days to get into a routine so it is important when you do start that you do not stop! The times flies and it will just become second nature in time!

My list is currently 7 things to do each day, (put as many as you like though of course!) there is no pressure for what time you complete these tasks or no pressure if you do not complete them all. (But most of the time If you did then that is amazing too!) I would suggest starting small so that you do not get frustrated with yourself if you don't achieve it. As I do feel personally I put myself under too much pressure at the start of this.

The most important part of this is to do things that make you feel good about yourself that make the love for you shine and another beautiful thing is this can also help to do things that help you that you would never have done before, something new, or even something you have always wanted to do but just never seem to get around. For me reading was a massive task for me. I have so many mental health books that just lay on a self... Now? I am halfway through reading the books which I am so proud of myself. It is all about the little wins that will slowly get you to the big ones, all in good time!

I really do hope that this post helps you all who are trying to find love within yourselves. Always remember every single one of you are amazing and beautiful never forget that! You deserve to be here and to be happy. If you have days where you struggle with loving yourself, do not be tough on yourself! Always be kind to you! Like I always say, treat yourself how you would for your best friend. It is not always going to be positive days and that is completely okay. I have been going through those motions recently. And it is just a part of the beautiful journey we are on right now. As always I am sending you all my love and if anyone ever needs support I am always a message away! You have all got this. Keep safe and well... and like I always say... Love as always.