Sometimes, letting go of the past is best...

Everyone has a past. Sometimes, the past can changed us in many different ways, sometimes for the good and other times bad. Of course I say sometimes "the past" because I am sure all of you have some amazing memories from your past that you will cherish forever and never forget, that's amazing, But I feel as long as you do not live for those moments too much because the future is bright for all of you, more exciting times are coming, even if I may not seem like it right now. It is always nice to reminisce on good times you have had every now and again. A lot what happens in our lives can be completely affect us without us even realising. This could be a coping mechanism for you in what has happened such a blurred memory, personality changes or many other ways that our minds reacts to these things. Many people who know me, know I have always had a fantastic memory of memories from the past, especially from when I was young. But a lot of early last year is a complete blur to me and even sometimes to this day I can forgot some things that even happened last week! I mentioned this to my doctor and therapist and I was told when struggling mentally and suffering from depression and anxiety, your mind can blur a lot out for you as a way to cope, how crazy is that?! Our body and mind can help protect us in a way in these kind of situations as much as they can. I just find that so amazing!

How has your past affected you?

I want to talk about this in more detail with you. So, if you think back about your past, how do have you dealt with situations that have affected you and what how has it made you the person you have become today? Before you answer this question to yourself, these doesn't have to automatically be something negative like many would think. It could be something that had a negative impact on you at first but after time and healing you have learnt from that experience which has then turned into a positive. Sadly in many cases, the past can and has left a lot of damage behind. Of course depending on the situation we have experienced which of course can be hard to deal with. It is about doing your absolute best to not let your past affect your future, it is so vital! I know easier said than done right? I am with you on that one, there are painful experiences that I have gone through that I am still dealing with to this day, some wounds I am still working on healing. But one thing I have learnt especially over the past year and a half is that even if you are in pain from any experience, it is okay to still feel pain because that is just normal, we are human we all deal with different experiences and are all wired differently so it can take some people longer than overs to recover from tough experiences. That honestly is okay, there is no time limit on this.

How the past can bring out all kinds of emotions!

The past can make us feel so many different emotions, anger, sadness, guilt, happiness, the list goes on! No matter what these emotions are, it is good to control them and this can take some learning to do. I find the best way for me to deal with my emotions in the best way is to speak about what is on my mind to my therapist or a close friend or family, do not get me wrong, sometimes I still do not always deal with my emotions in the right way at times as sometimes I can be in a low state of mind where I can things seriously or I am overly sensitive, which I feel can drive people away sometimes in that moment. But of course we are all human so if you do not always deal with these in the best way don't be hard on yourself it is okay. People who you are important to will understand, trust me! Acknowledging this is important too!

The main three emotions!

I find these are the three main emotions from our past can bring out these bad emotions in us, anger, guilt and sadness. DO NOT let these three emotions ruin your future. Remember it is okay and completely natural to experience these feelings, you are not a negative person, you are human. Let me break the three down that how I see them from my perspective for this.

Anger - Anger can be one of the more horrible out of the three as it can really eat you up and drive you mind into worse thoughts. Some situations really do get the better of us and can cause this emotion to hang around for longer than we realise or really want to admit. The best thing to do is to really be honest with yourself about this which it can be tough, (therapy really helped me with this last year especially!) that is the first good step! Then it is just learning to let go, which again I know is so difficult, but you will never be able to live your life to it's full potential if you have this over your head. Whether it is a situation and person or people, like I done in a previous post I done not too long ago about my top 5 quotes that have helped me (Go check it out if you haven't seen it!) "Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." This is honestly the best way to see it and is so true! You deserve it for yourself, so when you are ready let go of that angry, forgive and move forward to a better future, you owe it to yourself and do not forget you deserve it! Peace of mind is number one!

Guilt - Guilt can be on such a crazy scale, such as doing something you know you shouldn't, your behavior being different which you do not like and can't seem to control etc. For me, I felt guilty for how reckless I felt I was towards the end of last year and really had to look at myself and make the change in myself. I did not feel like me which was horrible because I have only ever had that feeling when my depression got really bad earlier that year. But you have to learn to forgive yourself first, (again) to be able to move forward. Of course depending on your situation, you may get forgiveness from people you have affected in the past, but then again, you might not. The bigger picture would be this. As long as you learn from your mistakes and wrong doing, forgive yourself then you are on the right track.

Sadness - Sadness for me is the worst one, this can really bring you down and can put you in a frame of mind none of you deserve to be in. Sadness can take over life so easier and quickly it is actually scary. Like I always say, suffering in silence is not an option talking about your problems has to be your priority rather than keeping it all bottled up inside. Expressing your feelings to people you can trust will make you feel better regardless and will help you to feel better about your situation in the future, of course it can take time but that's okay. Do things that make you happy. You deserve to be happy and not let your past do that to do, no matter what!

I hope you have all enjoyed today's post. I know it is an extremely tough experience letting go of a bad past but I believe you will all get there, not forgetting your future is bright and you owe that to yourself to be happy. We are not on this earth for long, we have one life so live it like everyday was your last. Remember, if anyone ever needs to talk, I am always here. Never forget! I it is okay to feel any of these emotions like I said, you will are human, it is a part of life. Good news from my end! I will be doing podcasts soon which I am really excited about doing so stay tuned for that. I wish you all an amazing day, keep smiling and I will catch you all soon. Love as always!